How to Win Friends and Influence People

    Six Ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like                                                    you...


Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

  If you are genuinely interested in other people then people would respect you and you will be welcomed anywhere." You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get the other people interesred in you." The only way to make quality, lasting friendships is to learn to be genuinely interested in them and in their interests.“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”

Rule 2: Smile

  If you smile at anyone you see and they smile back, they already know what type of a person you are. Nice, caring, sweet, etc. But if a person smiles at you and you dont smile back there first point of view of you is mean, selfish, and cocky. "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." It creates happiness everywhere you go and smiling makes your day alot better than just being serious and angry the whole day. If you are not happy then atleast pretend to be happy.“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

Rule 3: Remember Names

  People appreciate being appreciated. They enjoy the thought of others’ thinking that they matter. A person’s name is an essential part of their identity; when being referred to as their own name; they gain a sense of validity from the other person and therefore, tend to act more positively toward the one who used their name. Remember people’s names! I know it is not that easy, especially when you are constantly meeting new people on a daily basis. But, practice and work on it. Become conscientious of those around you and naturally more people will begin to respect and like you. "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language." "If you dont remember names, you are headed for trouble."

Rule 4: Be a Good Listener. Encourage others to talk about                                          themselves

  When people share things they love or enjoy they'll feel good as they talk and they'll asscociate those good feelings with you. When people talk about them ask them questions so that they can know you are interested in there life style etc. The better you are letting people speak without interrupting, helping them, thinking out loud with good questions and just say what you think, the more people will open up and want to talk to you."If you aspire to be a good conversationalist ,be an attentive listener." "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in  himself and his wants and his problemsthan he is in you and your problems.


Rule 5: Talk in Terms of the Other Man's Interest
  
  Let’s say you meet someone and quickly find 
out they’re into extreme sports. Feeling you have nothing in common, what can you do? Actually it’s pretty simple; allow them to talk about extreme sports. Just ask questions, show genuine interest and look at it as a learning experience. First, they’ll start to associate those feelings with you. Everyone likes to feel good, right? Of course they do and when people feel good around you they tend to like you and want to be around you more. That’s a great way to start a relationship. Talking in terms of the other person’s interests isn’t that hard. It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the hardest things for most people for a few reasons."The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."


Rule 6: Make the Other Person Feel Important--and Do It                                              Sincerely

To make other person feel important sincerely you can follow the required steps-

1.  Make Direct Eye Contact - Most of the time people feel unimportant just because of no eye contact. They subside themselves and then refrain in the future from talking to you if you don't follow this step

2. Adjust your body language - Don't be all lying around , or in a  relaxed position instead show your attentiveness with your  body language.

3. Stop bobbing your head unnecessarily - Instead ask questions from the topic  you and your friend are discussing  and try to be responsive. 

4. Smile often- A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. Smile is often the best way of creating a positive image  of you in the mind of the person whom you are talking to.

5. Listen actually - There are two types of people one who listen and one who hear. Make sure to fall in the 1st category of people for they have better social relation in long  run.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated works like magic."


Final Reflection:
                                                                                                                                                                    These are the Six Ways to Make People Like You. To win friends and make people like you, you should always smile at them politely even though they are strangers as well. It shows them what kind of a person you are. Nobody likes a person that has a bad, nasty attitude because it shows them that they are disrespectful. Also to make people like you, you have to make the other person feel important by when they speak to you, you listen to them and help them and comfort them with whatever they are speaking to you about.