Tips to Remember Names

                         
                              Remembering Good Appreciated Names

• Use the name immediate

• Repeat it silently to yourself

• Comment on the name, if possible

• Use it in the conversation when you talk to that person without over doing it

• Write it down afterward

• Repeat, repaeat, and repeat

How to Win Friends and Influence People

    Six Ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like                                                    you...


Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

  If you are genuinely interested in other people then people would respect you and you will be welcomed anywhere." You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get the other people interesred in you." The only way to make quality, lasting friendships is to learn to be genuinely interested in them and in their interests.“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”

Rule 2: Smile

  If you smile at anyone you see and they smile back, they already know what type of a person you are. Nice, caring, sweet, etc. But if a person smiles at you and you dont smile back there first point of view of you is mean, selfish, and cocky. "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." It creates happiness everywhere you go and smiling makes your day alot better than just being serious and angry the whole day. If you are not happy then atleast pretend to be happy.“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

Rule 3: Remember Names

  People appreciate being appreciated. They enjoy the thought of others’ thinking that they matter. A person’s name is an essential part of their identity; when being referred to as their own name; they gain a sense of validity from the other person and therefore, tend to act more positively toward the one who used their name. Remember people’s names! I know it is not that easy, especially when you are constantly meeting new people on a daily basis. But, practice and work on it. Become conscientious of those around you and naturally more people will begin to respect and like you. "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language." "If you dont remember names, you are headed for trouble."

Rule 4: Be a Good Listener. Encourage others to talk about                                          themselves

  When people share things they love or enjoy they'll feel good as they talk and they'll asscociate those good feelings with you. When people talk about them ask them questions so that they can know you are interested in there life style etc. The better you are letting people speak without interrupting, helping them, thinking out loud with good questions and just say what you think, the more people will open up and want to talk to you."If you aspire to be a good conversationalist ,be an attentive listener." "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in  himself and his wants and his problemsthan he is in you and your problems.


Rule 5: Talk in Terms of the Other Man's Interest
  
  Let’s say you meet someone and quickly find 
out they’re into extreme sports. Feeling you have nothing in common, what can you do? Actually it’s pretty simple; allow them to talk about extreme sports. Just ask questions, show genuine interest and look at it as a learning experience. First, they’ll start to associate those feelings with you. Everyone likes to feel good, right? Of course they do and when people feel good around you they tend to like you and want to be around you more. That’s a great way to start a relationship. Talking in terms of the other person’s interests isn’t that hard. It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the hardest things for most people for a few reasons."The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."


Rule 6: Make the Other Person Feel Important--and Do It                                              Sincerely

To make other person feel important sincerely you can follow the required steps-

1.  Make Direct Eye Contact - Most of the time people feel unimportant just because of no eye contact. They subside themselves and then refrain in the future from talking to you if you don't follow this step

2. Adjust your body language - Don't be all lying around , or in a  relaxed position instead show your attentiveness with your  body language.

3. Stop bobbing your head unnecessarily - Instead ask questions from the topic  you and your friend are discussing  and try to be responsive. 

4. Smile often- A smile is a curve that sets everything straight. Smile is often the best way of creating a positive image  of you in the mind of the person whom you are talking to.

5. Listen actually - There are two types of people one who listen and one who hear. Make sure to fall in the 1st category of people for they have better social relation in long  run.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated works like magic."


Final Reflection:
                                                                                                                                                                    These are the Six Ways to Make People Like You. To win friends and make people like you, you should always smile at them politely even though they are strangers as well. It shows them what kind of a person you are. Nobody likes a person that has a bad, nasty attitude because it shows them that they are disrespectful. Also to make people like you, you have to make the other person feel important by when they speak to you, you listen to them and help them and comfort them with whatever they are speaking to you about.

Ways to Be

                        9 Wasy to Be Happy and Make Something of your Life

 

                                                                  Gordon B. Hinckley

The Nine Ways To Be Happy: 

                              1. Be Grateful

         Be Grateful, in other words means "Thank You". Saying thank you shows people how well educated and kind you are. You have to be thankful for your blessings and be grateful for all of the good things that are happening in your life like for having friendly friends, a caring family etc. For example, if your parents do anything to keep you safe and work very hard to provide you then you have to be happy and be grateful that you have people that care for you and wouldn't let you down on your hard moments. I believe you should express appreciation to everyone who does you a favor or assists you in any way. Be grateful for all the obstacles in your life and because of those obstacles you are the person you are today.

 "Life isnt about having what you want, Its about wanting  what you already have, Be Grateful."



                              2. Be Smart
       You have to be smart in the most difficult times in your life. You have to think right in order to fix something. Everything around you is a competition. You have to be prepared in all things. You have to train your minds and hands to become an influence for good as you go forward with your lives. For example,lets say you spread a rumor and it turned into chaos. The best thing to do is be smart, react and tell the truth even though it could change many things but you will feel good in ones self.

  "Educate your mind and hands, whatever your chosen field."


                              3. Be Clean
We live in a place where evil is in the air. It is all around us. Once this evil attaches to you, you cant control yourself and you just let bad things happen because your addicted in doing bad. In order to "Be Clean" you have to avoid bad things. Such as bad talking, violence, crime, etc. Basically don't be with anybody that is a bad influence for you. For example, if you have a friend that drink and smokes a lot etc something can and possibly trigger them into doing something that can lead into chaos and then they will get you into it and that's when they have control and then your just use to it (doing crimes,drinking). But if you have a good friends then they will do anything to help you and stay focused and they show you respect instead of being aggressive with you. Don't waste your time in destructive entertainment.

"Stay Clean from these mind-altering and habit-forming addictions."


                    4. Be Involved In Good Works
Be involved in good works means doing good things. Such as helping homeless people. In doing good orks you feel good about yourself because you did something nice, caring, and helpful. For example, you see a homelss person asking for money,  but instead of giving him money you decide to buy him food, they would not only be happy but so would you for doing something that others dont want to do just because they look dirty or its just a waste a time and money. There is rewards for everything good you do it just takes time. 

“Good works is giving to the poor and the helpless, but divine works is showing them their worth to the One who matters.”
                                                   5.Be True
Being true means to always be honest to others and to yourself. If you arent true to yourself then you are always going to live with doubt and you would feel upset. But if you are true to others and yourself then you would always stay positive even though you hear negative things in what they say about you. For example, if somebody tells you something and they dont want you to tell anyone then you have top be true in not saying anything to others.

"Be true to your convinctions. You know what is right, and you know what is wrong."
                              6. Be Positive
Being Positive means with no possibility of doubt: clear and definite. We shouldnt think negative or doubt ourselves in any cause because thinking negative can bring yourself down and may leave you with worry. Each of us turn from the negativism that so permeates our society and look for the remarkable good among those with whom associate. For example, lets say you had a very big important test, you turned it in and now youn are just scared because you dont know if you did good or bad, then you start doubting yourself in saying you didnt ace it etc. But once you get the test back you did pass it with a high grade. You should never doubt yourself because things can actually come out to be better than expected.


"Cynics do not contribute, skeptics do not create, doubters do not achieve"


                               7. Be humble
Humble is an adjective that means marked by meekness or modesty; not arrogant or prideful. A person or a place can be humble, but a person who brags about being humble or not proud, may have too much pride in being "humble" to actually be humble.

"Be thou humble; and the lord thy God shall lead thee by the hand, and give thee answer to thy prayers."

                                      8. Be Still
Being Still means to not rush in anything. Just take your time. For example, if we were to rush things then we would all be stressed out. Lets say you have a test, and you rush in the test to be the first one, then once you get it back you have a low grade, if you take your time, be still, and take it easy by re-reading and doing notes then in return you get something good.


"Be still, and know that anything is possible."

                                9. Be prayerful
Reflection: These 9 ways are to find happiness in your life and to not live in doubt and just think and be postive in every moment that occurs. Just live life the fullest with no regrets.

"There they are, nine Be’s which, if observed, will bring handsome dividends to any young man or woman. They will add sparkle to your days and peace to your nights. They will save you from heartache and pain. They will bring purpose into your life and give direction to your energies.

They will bring you friends of your own kind. They will protect you from associations that would pull you down and deflect you from your course.

This is a time to be happy. This is a time to feel joy and make friends and enjoy the best this life has to offer. What I have tried to put forth .... are simply a few suggestions, gained from many years of living, to help you do just that. The world will tell that certain kinds of things will bring you happiness – things such as popularity and possessions and satisfying your baser desires.

If today you find yourself only drifting as a leaf in a stream, get hold of yourself and determine you will do better.
At railroad grade crossing, signs of warning were once common. Two cross arms were emblazoned with the words, “Stop, Look, Listen.” They meant that a train could be roaring down the tracks and you had better be alert.
I was riding a train in the Midwest years ago. I looked out the window to my left. A road ran parallel to the tracks. A car with a boy and a girl was speeding down the road a little faster than the train. The car moved ahead until I can no longer see it. Suddenly, the locomotive whistle sounded and the train screeched to a halt as the brakes gripped the wheels. We looked out the window on to the other side. There was a mangled car. Police cars soon converged, followed by the ambulance. The boy and girl were both dead. The road they were traveling crossed the tracks. They did not stop, look, or listen. It all happened in an instant.

The better way to Be is the way of these nine Be’s.

The years will inevitably pass, and pass quickly. Today is your day of resolution. Promise yourself to make something good of (your) precious life."